What I Watched Today
(rambling, random thoughts & annoyingly detailed recaps from real time TV watching)
General Hospital
At the hospital, Ava asks to speak to Austin, but the nurse at the desk says he’s with a patient. Would she like to leave a message? Ava says, no. This message needs to be delivered in person.
Cody starts to lift a bale of hay, and stops, saying, oh yeah, that wound. Maybe no lifting today. He goes into the stables, and asks Brook what she’s doing there. She says, Leo’s not the only Q who likes horses, and he says, liking them is one thing, but her feeding stance… Is she bucking for his job? She says she’s taking a break from work; hiding out from her Granny Tracy and her dad, who’s now known as the hard-partying rocker Eddie Maine.
Olivia finds Ned/Eddie in the nook, and says, good afternoon. He says, it’s afternoon already? and she says, if he didn’t stay out all night, he wouldn’t miss half the morning. He says he doesn’t see that changing any time soon… but he does appreciate her making him… What is that egg thing Leo said she made? Anyway, it was great; it really hit the spot. She says, frittata. It was his favorite… Ned’s favorite.
Molly instructs TJ on the placement of a plate of cookies, and he says he can’t believe they agreed to come to their home, instead of them going to the office. She says she’s grateful they did. She can’t believe this is happening so quickly. He says, as long as they don’t believe they’re entitled because they’re coming here, and she points to her foot, saying, it’s called extenuating circumstances. She really wants this first meeting to go well. He says, so does he, especially since it’s the first step to having a family.
Spencer goes into Kelly’s, followed by Esme with Ace, and sees Josslyn. He says, in all the years Cam worked here, and even when he did, he never pictured her wearing a Kelly’s apron. She says, why not? It’s a good gig. Her mom owns the place now. She’s just helping her out. He asks if she’s giving up on pre-med, and she asks if she said that. No. Her career path doesn’t have to change. She’s just helping her mom out. He says, fair enough, and she asks what they’re doing here. She wonders if Esme quit her job at The Invader, but Esme says, of course (🍷) not. She’s on her lunch break and thought she’d spend a little time with Ace away from daycare. Kristina walks in and squeals, asking if that’s little baby Ace. He’s so adorable. Spencer was right; he’s so cute. (He is. I’m not even a baby person, and he is.) She can’t believe it took her so long to meet him. She tells Ace that she’s his cousin and it’s nice to meet him.
At the hospital, Dex sees Trina in a waiting area, and says he doesn’t mean to bother her, but Sonny sent him to see how Curtis was doing. The nurses won’t tell him anything because he’s not family, but maybe she could. She says she can’t tell him much, and he asks if Curtis is with the doctors now. She says, no, but Curtis, her dad, is refusing to see her.
Austin introduces himself to Curtis and says, according to his chart, Curtis has turned away his physical therapist. Curtis says he didn’t feel like physical therapy today, and Austin says he sees. He checks Curtis’s vitals and says, maybe he wants to go tomorrow. It’s a very important component of his recovery. Curtis doesn’t respond, and Austin says he doesn’t know if anyone has explained this to Curtis, but when he leaves here, he’s going to go to the rehabilitation facility. Does Curtis have any questions while he’s here? Curtis says, no, and Austin says, if that changes, just let the nurse know, and he’ll be more than happy to circle back. He leaves, and Curtis remembers reading, this condition can’t be cured. He flashes back to telling Portia, if he’s not going to walk again, she’s not remodeling their home; she has to let him go. If she really wants to help, she’ll walk out the door and not walk back. Curtis throws his phone against the door, and Stella walks in.
Cody says, maybe he overdid it coming back to work so soon, but somebody’s got to feed the horses, and Brook says, it’s already been taken care of. What does he need? Can she get him some water? He says he’d prefer beer. Grab herself one too. He hates to drink alone. She says, water it is, and he sits down. He says, yep, that hurts, and she asks how bad Sasha hurt him, handing him a water. She says she’s not the shy, retiring type, and he asks if anyone is shy in the Quartermaine family. She says, of course (🍷) not, but he didn’t answer her question. How badly did Sasha hurt him? He says, it’s nothing he can’t handle, and definitely not bad enough she should be sent to Ferncliff.
Ned says, the night Olivia brought the ravioli over to Sonny’s place, he did try some of that. It was delicious. Has she ever thought of becoming a chef? She says she does co-own a restaurant and gives the chef notes on his menu sometimes, but that’s enough for her. She gets enough satisfaction out of cooking for her family and loved ones. He asks if she’s always been a good cook, but she says, no. She remembers when she was a teenager in Bensonhurst, her Nona was always dying for her to learn her recipes. She was always too busy to let Nona teach her. He says, busy with school? He bets she was a cheerleader. She says, ha! Her? No. She was more of a wild child. After school, the only thing she wanted to do was cause trouble.
TJ sets some bottles of water down, and Molly says, flat and sparkling. It’s good to give her a choice. He wonders if they’re overthinking this, and she says, of course (🍷) they are. That’s always best. There’s a knock at the door, and he says, that must be her. Molly says, let’s knock this out of the park, since she’s been watching Below Deck, and he opens the door. A woman says she’s Clair Brown, and he says, the surrogacy matching professional? She says, that’s her, and he says he’s TJ. They’ve been expecting her. Please come in. He thanks her for coming to their home, and introduces his partner Molly. Clair says she was happy to accommodate, and asks how Molly is feeling. Molly says, better, and TJ asks Clair to have a seat. Clair sits and asks if it’s their first meeting with a surrogacy specialist. Molly says, yes. They just recently found out she’s unable to have a baby on her own. Clair says, there’s no reason for them to be nervous. She’s done this process with hundreds of couples. And don’t be afraid to ask her anything. In her line of work, she’s found the only bad question is the unasked one. TJ says, understood, and Molly asks where they start. Clair says she’ll start with the basics of what hiring a surrogate will be like and find out what their preferences are. The first thing is, are they interested in a gestational surrogate or a traditional surrogate?
Stella picks up Curtis’s phone and asks how he’s doing. He says, how does she think? and she says she spoke to Portia… He tells her that he knows what she’s going to say. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, Curtis. Get on with your life. God never gives us more than we can handle. She says, that’s not what she was going to say at all. She honestly doesn’t know what to say, except she’s sorry. She’s so, so sorry. She hugs him.
Trina tells Dex that she shouldn’t have said anything, and he asks, why? She says she barely knows him, and she just shared way too much information. He says, she’s Joss’s best friend, and he knows Joss is busy today helping her mom at Kelly’s, so maybe Trina could consider him her proxy. If she wants him to leave, he will, but if she needs someone to talk to, he hopes she feels comfortable sharing whatever she would have with Joss with him. Trina guesses she’ll take a shot at it, because she really needs to talk about this. She needs to talk about it with someone who isn’t family. He says he definitely qualifies, and she says, the doctors think it’s a possibility that Curtis may never walk again. He says he knew that was a possibility, but he hoped that wouldn’t be the case. He’s really sorry. She says, that’s not even the worst part. Ever since Curtis found out he may never walk again, he’s refusing to see her.
Kristina says, Ace is the absolute cutest, and tells Esme to have a good day with her son. She goes over to Josslyn, and says, welcome to life behind the counter. She should think about putting in an application at Charlie’s. Josslyn says she’d rather stick pins in her eyes, and Kristina says, Charlie’s is not that bad. It’s the same thing as Kelly’s, but with alcohol. Josslyn says, right, but that’s where Sonny tends to go with Nina, so hard pass. Kristina says, okay, and walks out. Esme tells Spencer, Josslyn and Kristina don’t seem to like each other very much. What’s their deal?
Austin finds Ava in his office, and she says, finally. He closes the door, and she says, take it easy. She knows he’s been ignoring her. he’s been ignoring her calls. He’s been ignoring her texts. She had to track him down in person because she needs to know, what the hell is going on? He says he hasn’t been avoiding her calls or her texts; he’s a doctor. He’s been very busy. He has a lot of patients to care for. She says he has one less patient to worry about, now that Gordon Stevens was found dead in an alley, right here outside the hospital.
Austin says he heard what happened to Gordon. It’s very unfortunate. Ava says, unfortunate? A heart attack is unfortunate. Two bullets to the chest is murder. He says he went over this with Detective Chase, just so she knows. Austin told him that he didn’t know anything about Gordon’s death. Which isn’t a lie, because he didn’t know who Gordon was. He really doesn’t know anything about his death. She says, oh my God. Austin killed him, didn’t he?
Curtis says he’s sorry, and Stella asks what he has to be sorry about. He says, clearly he upset her with his outburst, but she says, he hasn’t done anything wrong. That bullet wasn’t meant for him. He was just in the wrong place at the wrong time. None of this is his fault. But unfortunately, it is his reality now, and that’s why she’s here. She’s here to help him in any way she can. He says, there’s nothing she can do. There’s nothing anyone can do. She sits on the bed and says she’s going to have to disagree with him. He has a family that loves him; a family whose love is as strong as any army. An army that will support him and care for him, and guide him through this unfortunate circumstance. He says, unfortunate circumstance? He can’t walk. He can’t run. He can’t dance. He’s not the person he was a week ago. He’s not the man he was. He never will be again. That’s his future. Curtis is literally whining, and I want him to stop that.
Trina tells Dex that when she found out Curtis may be her biological father, she had no interest in getting a DNA test. Marcus Taggert will always be her dad, the man who raised her, no matter what a DNA test said. He asks, what changed her mind? and she says, Curtis was so brave in Greenland. He literally risked his life to save hers. She thought the least she could do was take a DNA test. It turned out Curtis was her biological father, and it changed things. He says, how so? and she says, things got weird between her and her dad, but also between her and Curtis. He wasn’t just the man married to her mom. He wasn’t just her stepdad. She had to look at him differently. She had to look at them like father and daughter. Then it slowly got less weird, and they started bonding. Until she pushed him away.
Josslyn says, if Esme has something to ask her, just as her, not Spencer, and Esme says, okay then. What’s the deal with her and Kristina? Why don’t they like each other? Josslyn says, the answer is simple and it’s none of her business, and Spencer tells her, don’t be like that. It’s not like it’s a state secret. Kristina is Team Sonny and Josslyn’s Team Carly. Josslyn says, sure. In her opinion, she just thinks is you’re Team Sonny, you’re a bit misguided. She walks off, and Esme says she wasn’t trying to provoke Josslyn. She hopes Spencer knows that. Ace fusses, and Esme says she just thought, Kristina treats her like a human being, which is a refreshing change. Ace continues to fuss, and Esme says she’s going to take him back to daycare.
Brook says, correct her if she’s wrong, but Sasha grabbed a knife off of the bar and stabbed Cody with it. He says, that’s all true, but Sasha was terrified. She says, of him? and he says, she didn’t even know it was him. She kept calling him Cyrus. Brook says she knows he’s friends with Sasha. Sasha is her friend too, but if Sasha was hallucinating he was someone else, that’s an argument for Ferncliff. She lost touch with reality and became violent, and this isn’t the first time she’s been violent. She smashed the windshield of that reporter’s car. He says, that reporter who was aggressively provoking her, and Brook says, maybe Ferncliff is the best place for her, but he says, no. And he refuses to believe that.
Molly says, if she has it right, a gestational surrogate is a person not related to the fetus because they didn’t provide the egg, and Clair says, that’s correct. In their case, it would be a donor egg fertilized with TJ’s sperm and impregnated through IVF. Molly says, whereas a traditional surrogate provides the egg and is genetically related to the fetus, and Clair says, right again. She has several traditional surrogates who are willing to supply the egg and be fertilized through IUI. So that’s the first question. Do they have plans to secure a donor egg? Kristina blows in, and says, my God, that Josslyn is such a bitch.
Austin tells Ava that he didn’t kill Gordon. He couldn’t do something like that. She knows him better than that. She says she doesn’t. As a matter of fact, now that she thinks about it, she knows next to nothing about him. He wonders how she can say that; they had sex. She says, they scratched an itch, that’s all. And just because they know each other doesn’t mean they know each other. He says, after everything they’ve been through, he’d say they do. She knows him better than anyone’s known him in a long time. She says, everything they’ve been through? Like him helping her cover up her husband’s death? He says, it was bad luck that he arrived just after she killed her husband, and she begged him to help her hide the body. She says, it’s too bad his help came with a side of Mason. Austin’s phone beeps, and she says, he was just a nuisance at first, but now he’s got that psycho Betty looking after her child. He looks at his phone, and says he hates that Mason was there that night and brought her into his world, but that’s the way it is. But understand something. Mason and the people who Mason works for, those are the people who hurt people like Gordon. He could never do anything like that. He has to go. She tells him, hurry back. She still has questions, and she’d like some answers. He says, okay, and leaves. She starts snooping around his office.
Cody tells Brook, none of this tracks. Sasha kept it together when the producers at Home & Heart were trying to sabotage her by playing crying baby noises in her earpiece. She says, he’s right. Sasha did show a lot of courage that day, but of course (🍷) she did get a little assist from him when he threatened to run in front of the camera naked if they didn’t stop the sabotage. By the way, she has to ask him. Would he really have done that? Gotten naked on live TV? He asks what she thinks, and she says, it’s admirable he would have done that to help Sasha. He says, that’s his point. How is the same woman who kept it together under incredible pressure suddenly become a delusional trainwreck in just over a month?
Ned says, Olivia was a wild child? Which means what exactly? She skipped school and went to the mall? She says, the mall, and laughs. That’s for babies; that’s middle school. By the time she was in high school, she and her best friend Lois – who he also might remember – they gave their Nonos every grey hair they had on their head. They were smoking, they were running around with older boys, they were sneaking into nightclubs with their ginormous bangs and little skirts about the size of a belt. He says, sounds like she was a good time. He never would have guessed. She says she got pregnant. She had to give up her partying days to raise her son.
Molly introduces Kristina, and says, Clair is a matching professional, who will hopefully be matching her and TJ with a surrogate so they can have a baby. Kristina says, wow. That’s amazing. Molly and TJ are going to be incredible parents. Does Clair know they’re a doctor and a lawyer? The ultimate power couple. Clair says, yes. She read their application before the meeting, and Kristina says, duh. Of course (🍷) she did. Clair doesn’t need her to tell her anything else about them. She’ll text Molly later, and it was lovely to meet Clair. They’re just so great. She leaves, and in the hallway, she says, what? TJ says he’s sorry for the interruption. Where were they? Clair says, some couples choose to use a donor egg from a family member so they’ll share the same family DNA. Is that a possibility for them? Molly says, no. They’re interested in a traditional surrogacy using the surrogate’s egg.
Spencer goes into the kitchen and asks Josslyn if he can get a chocolate milkshake on the house. She says, of course (🍷). She’ll get him the shake, for double the price. He says, that was awkward with Esme before, right? and she says, yeah. Isn’t everything awkward with Esme? He says he’s sorry he blabbed about her issues with Kristina to Esme. He didn’t mean to. She says, that’s okay. Don’t worry about it. He says, before Esme left, she said Kristina was the only person who made her feel like a real human being. He hates to say it, but he kind of felt sorry for her.
Dex says, Trina doesn’t need to tell him anything she doesn’t want to, but if she and Curtis were starting to bond, why did she suddenly push him away? She says, because he did something she disapproved of, and she pushed him away. So the fragile bond they were building, she broke it. And now when he needs her, he won’t let her help him. He says he thinks she might be wrong about this one.
Ava flips through a file box, and says, okay, Gordon Stevens. Let’s see what your problem with Austin was.
Austin tells Curtis that he’ll be leaving tomorrow and spending a few weeks in the rehabilitation facility. After that, it’s very important that he continue his rehab at home. He’s sure Dr. Robinson has already explained all this to him. Stella says she’ll take it from here, and Austin leaves. Curtis says he doesn’t think he can do this, but Stella says, Curtis Byron Ashford. You have had a lifetime of hardships and struggles, more than any one man should have to bear, and I have watched you triumph over each and every one of them. He says, this is different, and she says, he’s right; it is.
Josslyn gives Spencer his shake, and says she knows the reason he moved in with Esme was to protect Ace, and she respects that. But even though Esme has lost her memory, Josslyn hasn’t. She hasn’t forgotten what Esme did to Trina, her, and Cameron. It’s just really weird for her to be around Esme like that. It isn’t for him? He says, it’s not as hard as it used to be, but that’s because of Ace. His first priority was, and still is, Trina. She says, so why isn’t he with her right now? and walks out of the kitchen.
Ned says, it sounds like a tragedy to him, and Olivia says, how so? He says, she was forced to give up her party girl days to be a mom. It’s tragic. She says, absolutely not. Her son Dante is an absolutely amazing man. He saw Dante last night; Dante is the one who brought him here. if he remembers it. He says, she doesn’t really expect him to believe she doesn’t miss her wild party days, and she says, sure, once in a while. Does she regret giving up partying to raise her son? Absolutely not. She wouldn’t trade her son for anything in the entire world.
Cody says, Brook told him that Sasha was violent before when she attacked that sleazy reporter’s windshield and smashed it, but Sasha was on drugs back then, right? Brook says, she was, but then she got clean, and he asks if it’s possible she relapsed and was on drugs again at the pool. The way she was acting, thinking he was Cyrus Renault. If he didn’t know anything about Sasha, and was a total stranger, he would have completely assumed she was high as a kite. She asks if he thinks Sasha fell off the wagon, and he says, maybe she didn’t know she was drugged. What if someone spiked her drink? Brook says she knows he’s trying to find any possible way to justify Sasha’s behavior, but Sasha has a history of mental illness. If they deny that, they’re not helping her. He says, maybe she wasn’t drugged, but something happened to derail her. He’d bet anything it started with Gladys.
Clair says, Molly and TJ have answered all the questions she needed answering. Now it’s time for her to put together a list of potential surrogate candidates for them for them to interview. Molly says, that’s it? It seems way easier than she thought. Clair says, so going forward, the issue will be finding a surrogate that they feel comfortable with. TJ thanks her, and says, they’re excited to take the next step. Clair says, it was nice meeting both of them. They seem to have a very good grasp on what they want, which will make the process go smoothly. TJ says he’ll walk her out, and walks with her maybe 10 feet to the door. He thanks her again, and Clair leaves. He asks what Molly thinks, and she says she thinks it’s lucky she’s in this boot, or she might have jumped off the couch and tackled Kristina for being inappropriate. Which would have disqualified them from Clair’s service. He says, her sister has a real gift for showing up at the exact wrong moment, and Molly says she doesn’t know. Maybe Kristina showed up at just the right time.
Sitting at the counter, Spencer tells Josslyn, with everything going on with Curtis, he’s trying to be respectful. He’s keeping his distance away from Trina and her family. Josslyn says, but why? Trina just found out Curtis isn’t her stepdad; that he’s her biological father. He’s just been shot. He could be paralyzed for the rest of his life. If she was in Trina’s position, she wouldn’t want her boyfriend to keep his distance from her. He says, Portia has recently graduated in her feelings for him. She’s gone from being vocally disapproving of him to outright telling Trina that she doesn’t want him anywhere near her. Josslyn says, it’s a big world out there. Maybe just spend time with Trina far away from Portia. Kristina walks in, and says, that’s certainly one idea. She’s also got others. Maybe instead of dumping his beautiful baby brother off at daycare, Spencer could grab Ace and his mom and take them to the park.
Dex tells Trina, when he was overseas in the military and one of his buddies was seriously injured, the hardest part was watching them isolate themselves from the rest of them. But after a while, you start to get it. Their job in the military is literally to protect people. So if you get injured and lose your ability to be a protector, it’s got to mess with your head. For Curtis, he’s not just this guy married to Trina’s mom; he’s her actual biological father. It’s got to kill him that he can’t be Trina’s protector. Trina says, yeah, but she’s not a little girl. Curtis doesn’t have to protect her; that doesn’t matter to her. He says, maybe not, but he kind of guesses that matters to Curtis.
Brook tells Cody that Gladys used to work as her assistant, and she agrees Gladys isn’t the best worker, but she still thinks Gladys has Sasha’s back. Why is he so suspicious of Gladys? He says, she sold Brando’s garage without telling Sasha, and she says, Sasha was initially upset, but then Gladys explained that there were just too many daily reminders… He says, no. That was just a cover story. Gladys cannot be trusted. She framed him for stealing that bracelet at the Nurses Ball. She says she can believe Gladys tried to frame him, but she’s been around long enough to know Gladys truly loves Sasha, and that’s good enough for her. She looks at her phone and says she’s been away from work long enough, and hiding from granny, so she’s got to go. She’ll see him later.
Austin come back and asks what Ava is doing. Those are patient files. They’re very private. She can’t do this. This he would have her arrested for. She says she doesn’t think so. Besides the dead guy doesn’t need privacy. But that’s the funny thing. Gordon Stevens is nowhere to be found in his files, which means he was never Austin’s patient at all. So start talking. Who was Gordon Stevens to him?
Ned says, so in Olivia’s wild days, before she got knocked up, what clubs did she used to hang out in? She says, that was a long time ago, and he says, she doesn’t remember the names of any of the clubs? She says, if it was happening, she and Lois were there. The Peppermint Lounge… Private Eyes, Hurrah, Area, of course (🍷) Studio 54, Xenon… She sighs, and Brook stands at the door. He asks how she got in. Did they have fake IDs? Olivia says, fake IDs. Those are for amateurs. She winks and says, they made friends with all the bouncers. He says, nice, and Brook smiles.
On the phone, Cody says he has a friend staying in their facility. He was hoping to get the visiting hours… Yes. Her name is Sasha Gilmore… His name? Cody Bell… What do they mean, he’s not on the list?… Did Sasha get to create her visitor’s list?… Of course (🍷) Gladys Corbin made the list. He thanks them.
Molly tells TJ that she was really torn about asking Kristina to donate an egg. Because at least the baby would be biologically related to her. He says, that makes sense, and she says, but after Kristina’s barging in earlier, she realized it would just make everything so much more fraught. Kristina would feel entitled to give her opinion on every parenting decision they made. He nods, and she says, because of that and a million other reasons, she thinks it would be better if they use the surrogate’s egg. He takes her hand and says, no matter what, she’s going to be the mom of their baby. She says she agrees. She’s feeling so much more confident after meeting with Clair. She’s going to find them the perfect woman to carry their baby. He nods, and she says, and to think a year from now their baby will be on this couch with them. He says, with them, and they kiss.
Josslyn says, Spencer actually has plans with Trina this afternoon, and Kristina says she does know her mom is out of town. She doesn’t think it would be a big deal for Esme to take the afternoon off. She’s sure Baby Ace would rather be outside in a park than cooped up in daycare. Spencer says, it is a beautiful day. So he thinks he’s going to catch up with Esme and his brother. He leaves, and Kristina tells Josslyn, sorry.
Trina says, if Dex were her, what would he do? and he says he would let Curtis know that he’s here for him, then he’d give him space. She says, so sitting here for hours isn’t the way to go? and he says he’ll walk her out.
Stella kisses Curtis on the top of the head and leaves. Curtis uncovers his legs and pokes at them and smacks them. He pounds on his thighs and cries.
Austin says, the next time Ava has a question for him, please just ask. Don’t go through his patients files. She says, fine, but did Mason force him to treat Gordon Stevens? He says, yes, and she asks if Mason had anything to do with Gordon confronting him in front of Nina and Sonny and everybody else at the Port Charles Grill. He says, hold on a second. Did she say something to Sonny? Did she talk to Sonny? She says she didn’t, and he says, Sonny already didn’t trust him and now that he’s got a dead patient in the alleyway, Sonny’s never going to let him around Avery again. Sonny’s going to… She says, Sonny’s not going to do anything. Because she told him that Austin helped her. He says, helped her what? Did she tell Sonny that she killed Nikolas?
Tomorrow, Willow says she’s glad Michael rescued her from it; Nina tells Kristina that she’ll help any way she can; Laura says, whatever she and Doc find, they face together; and Valentin asks Anna if she’s sure he wasn’t the target.
💡 Other Projects…
GH cast members away from the hospital.
🛥 Life After Deck…
This sounds great. I’ve called Sandoval the poor man’s Johnny Depp too! Kindred spirits!
🐎 If Ya’ll Still Care…
I kind of liked this one. Admittedly, LeeAnne was a bit much, but every village needs their idiot. And Kameron’s stick figure depiction of adult entertainment in Thailand remains of the funniest things I’ve ever seen.
🩱 Project Mashup…
This might have been my favorite episode this season, a client challenge for Below Deck cast members. Countess LuAnn and former chief stew Kate were the guest judges, and Gary did a hair flip on the runway. There was even a crew night out.
🐕 There Are No Words…
I would travel everywhere with this little nugget too. She’s only around 1.5 pounds. You could sneak her in anywhere. How could you not adore this dog???
https://people.com/every-time-demi-moore-has-matched-her-chihuahua-pilaf-7564954
🌝 Midsummer Night’s Dreaming…
Meet me here tomorrow for soap, a font of tea and quotes, and something musical to round it out. Until then, stay safe, stay not being that person with too many items in the express lane, and stay being aware of when to let someone know you’re here for them, then give them space.